Various studies conducted by cognitive neuroscientists show that only 5% of our cognitive activities are conscious and the remaining 95% is generated in a non-conscious manner. This fact reveals how much control our non-conscious thoughts have over us and the choices we make. The purpose of this article is to make you aware of how much you may be participating in the contribution to your undesired situations. In turn, after reading this article, you’ll understand how important it is to identify the things we want as relevant and the things we do not want as irrelevant. Innocently, a significant number of us pay more attention to the things we’d rather avoid, than the things we desire. Some people are vocal when they do this. Sentences sounding similar to the following: “I hope my flight isn't delayed" or “why do I always get the rudest clients”. Many fear what they do not want and harbour it; distributing their energy to the dealings which they disfavour. These thoughts can only be found in the unconscious part of the mind. Our thoughts are indeed vibrations of energy, and they have a significant influence on what happens to us. This is what makes it so vital that we stay conscious enough to listen to what our unconscious thoughts are saying. It is crucial to identify everything that you do not wish to be associated with as irrelevant. Do not give it any feeling or emotion (good or bad) because ideally, you have nothing to do with it and it has nothing to do with you. Thoughts cannot be controlled, and they will come as they please, but they are dependant on how much energy and time we give them. As they occur, it is essential to pay attention to how you respond to the negative and positive ones.
Below is a list of examples of ways to respond when we are faced with things we do not desire:
Instead of saying you “hate sitting in traffic”, put on your favourite song and focus your attention towards the opposite. Instead, Say “I love getting to my destination quickly” or "I enjoy the alone time I have when driving and listening to great music". There is a difference between stating how you’d prefer the situation to be, rather than giving your energy to all the factors you dislike about it. The moment you dismiss the negative thoughts to think about how happy you’d feel in your desired situation, it becomes irrelevant.
If someone you work with behaves in a way that you don’t appreciate, think about the types of characteristics you do like. They may be egotistical, rude, obnoxious, condescending and demanding, but they might also be funny. Try and remember the times you heard them telling a humorous story to the team and be grateful to work with someone that can make you laugh (even if it is rare). If there is nothing you like about them then concentrate on how much you like spending time with other colleagues.
Put on an old film or album that you know you used to love, and it’ll bring back the memory of why you liked it. Music is often one of the methods that won't just make you think positive thoughts temporarily, but it can lighten your mood for an extended period or for as long as you are listening!
How about just exposing yourself to the day, with no conditioning. Just be you as you are and pay close attention to what makes you smile. It doesn’t matter how big or small this is. It’ll allow you to see what you love and help you notice more when these 'happy thoughts' appear.
What you think becomes your reality. If you are thinking negative thoughts, you will attract negativity into your life. Remember this important statement - it only became relevant when you made it so.Agree or disagree with anything we have said; would like to see more articles like this or suggest a new topic? Please do let us know at email@example.com